Don't stick around trying to prove a point to someone who will always see themselves as the victim. Don't live in the false hope that your point of view, pain, time, tears or anger will be validated. Don't think that anger is a bad thing when you can use it in a productive way that will help you to protect yourself.
Because in the end, it won't matter. It will be a whole episode of lost time where you were lying to yourself, bending and breaking to save something that wasn't there in the first place. And don't let them tell you you can't make it alone. If I'd met me earlier, hell I wouldn't have needed anyone else.
PS - Negative people attract abusers. Positive, independent people attract good, sensitive, healthy relationships with other positive people. Life lesson.
(If you don't believe that, then look at the relationship history of any person and see if you can find a pattern - the healthy ones will have broken relationships too, but the reasons for those relationships breaking down will be very different from those with abusive patterns. Codependent people have these relationships on and on, while people with abusive tendencies have superficial non intimate relationships most of the time no matter how intense it might seem to an outsider, the victim or even to the abuser. And see who an abusive person is attracted to or can connect with - someone whiny, or visibly depressed, or really vulnerable. Someone they can control, whether they know this is what they're seeking out, or not.)
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Posted by Gypsy at 2:23 AM